Writing Your Way Through Difficult Conversations

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I hate having difficult conversations. There, I said it.

But I've learned that some conversations are non-negotiable. If I can't get something off my mind, I need to speak up. If it will affect me in a few years, I need to address it. If I'm feeling bad about a situation, I have to say something.

However, I'm also strategic. If I believe my words will fall on deaf ears, or if someone doesn't have the mindset to listen without being disagreeable, I stay silent. Not every conversation is worth having with every person.

Writing helps me figure out which conversations need to happen and how to approach them with intention rather than reaction.

💫 A Reiki Moment: Heart-Centered Communication

Before any difficult conversation, the message must start from a place of love—for yourself first, then for the other person. Your heart chakra helps you find that loving intention.

Place one hand on your heart and one on your throat. Breathe into both spaces simultaneously. Feel the connection between your heart's truth and your throat's expression.

Say to yourself:

"I speak from love. I listen from love. I honor both my truth and their humanity."

This practice helps ensure your words come from healing rather than harm, from clarity rather than confusion.

📝 Words of Encouragement

Sometimes when I write down what I want to say, what actually comes out in the conversation is softer, kinder, more effective.

Writing before speaking gives you the chance to process your emotions privately first. It helps you separate what you're feeling from what you need to communicate. It allows you to approach the conversation as your highest self rather than your triggered self.

Not every difficult conversation will go perfectly, but every conversation approached with intention and love has the potential to create understanding, even when agreement isn't possible.

✨ Put It Into Practice

🖊️ Prompt: Think of a difficult conversation you need to have. Write: "If I could say this with complete love and clarity, what would I want them to understand?"

Focus on the core message, not the emotions around it. This isn't the letter you'll send—it's the practice that will help you find your center before you speak.